With insights from Dr. Jon Atacador, Breast Surgeon
Hearing that someone you love has breast cancer can be heartbreaking. You may want to help but feel unsure what to say or do. The truth is, support goes beyond medical care — it’s about presence, empathy, and understanding.
Dr. Jon Atacador shares meaningful ways to support a friend or family member with breast cancer — from emotional care to practical help — so that your love truly makes a difference.
Why Emotional Support Matters
“A breast cancer diagnosis affects not just the body, but the heart and mind,” says Dr. Atacador. “Compassion, consistency, and respect are the best medicine you can offer.”
Research shows that patients with strong emotional and social support often experience less anxiety, better treatment adherence, and improved quality of life.
Your steady presence can be a powerful source of strength during a difficult time.
1. Be There — and Listen
One of the simplest yet most valuable forms of support is just being present.
- Listen more than you speak.
- Avoid giving unsolicited medical advice.
- Let them express fear, anger, or sadness without judgment.
- Use comforting phrases like “I’m here for you,” or “You don’t have to go through this alone.”
“You don’t have to fix everything,” says Dr. Atacador. “Sometimes, what patients need most is someone who simply listens.”
2. Offer Practical Help
Treatment can be exhausting — small acts of service go a long way.
Here are simple ways to help:
- Drive them to appointments.
- Cook healthy meals or deliver groceries.
- Help manage errands or childcare.
- Accompany them to chemotherapy or doctor visits if they want company.
- Organize a schedule with friends or family to share responsibilities.
Consistency matters more than grand gestures.
3. Respect Their Decisions
Every patient’s treatment path is unique. Even if you disagree, respect their choices — whether about surgery, wigs, reconstruction, or lifestyle changes.
“Empower, don’t pressure,” Dr. Atacador advises. “Each person’s journey is deeply personal.”
Avoid overwhelming them with stories of others’ experiences or alternative cures from social media. Encourage questions — but always guide them toward evidence-based information and their medical team.
4. Encourage Healthy Distraction
Help your loved one reconnect with life beyond cancer.
- Watch movies together.
- Go for gentle walks.
- Do crafts, gardening, or music therapy.
- Celebrate milestones — like completing treatment sessions or birthdays.
Positivity doesn’t mean ignoring pain; it means creating moments of normalcy and joy amid the uncertainty.
5. Be Sensitive About Appearance and Energy
Treatment can cause hair loss, fatigue, and changes in body image.
Avoid comments that focus on physical changes unless they bring it up. Instead, compliment their strength or resilience.
If they’re tired, let them rest without guilt. Cancer recovery takes time — patience is a gift.
6. Support Their Mental Health
Encourage counseling or support groups if they seem withdrawn or depressed.
The Philippine Cancer Society, ICanServe Foundation, and several hospitals offer group therapy and survivor circles where patients can talk openly.
“Cancer can feel isolating,” Dr. Atacador notes. “Remind them they’re never alone — help is available.”
7. Take Care of Yourself, Too
Caring for someone with cancer can be emotionally heavy.
Make sure you:
- Get enough rest and emotional support.
- Set healthy boundaries.
- Find your own outlet for stress — journaling, prayer, or talking to a counselor.
You can’t pour from an empty cup; taking care of yourself allows you to care better for others.
Cultural Sensitivity in the Philippines
In Filipino families, love and caregiving are often collective. However, patients sometimes feel guilty about being a “burden.”
Be mindful of this. Encourage open conversations, validate their feelings, and share tasks so the load is lighter for everyone.
“Our bayanihan spirit is beautiful,” says Dr. Atacador. “Let’s use it to surround patients with kindness — not pressure.”
“Your love and presence are part of the healing process. You don’t need to be perfect — just genuine. Every kind word, every shared moment, helps someone feel less alone in their fight.”
Do you feel like you need to get your breasts checked? Contact Dr. Jon Atacador through his Facebook page and schedule your consultation or check up today.
References
- American Cancer Society. How to Help Someone with Cancer.
- Mayo Clinic. Supporting a Friend or Family Member with Cancer.
- Healthline. Practical Ways to Support Someone with Breast Cancer.
- Johns Hopkins Medicine. Caring for Cancer Patients and Yourself.
- World Health Organization (WHO). Psychosocial Support for Cancer Patients.
- ICanServe Foundation. Support and Resources for Breast Cancer Patients in the Philippines.
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